How to Strengthen Your Child’s Emotional Intelligence?

How to Strengthen Your Child’s Emotional Intelligence?

by | Jan 11, 2022 | Character Building, Social and Emotional Learning

How to develop your child’s emotional intelligence (EI)? Before we answer that, let’s check what it means. EI is how one manages and shows his or her feelings while caring for the feelings of others. EI is related to Emotional Quotient or EQ. In fact, both these terms are interchangeable. A high EI is the same as high EQ.

It is vital in today’s day and age to have high EI. A high EI helps your children connect with others, manage their emotions better and behave well. The good news is you can teach your children to build emotional awareness at any age. Let’s look more closely at various benefits of emotional intelligence below.

Benefits of Emotional Intelligence

A strong EI has several benefits for your children. A high EI helps them their entire life, from a young age to adult life.

  1. High EQ means high IQ

Children with high EI perform better on IQ tests. They also are good in school and get higher grades.

  1. Form Better Connections and Relations

If your child has high emotional awareness they will have close friendships. Adults with high EI also have a good personal life and career. This is due to the close relationships they form in both these areas. If your children have high EI, it’s a sign that they will be successful adults.

  1. Good Mental Health

People with high EI enjoy good mental health. They are less likely to have high-stress levels, anxiety and other mental issues. They know how to express their emotions and manage themselves during periods of emotional turmoil.

So, these are some of the benefits of having high EI. With the help of the tips given below, you can teach your children ways to develop emotional intelligence and manage their feelings better.

  1. Help Your Kids Label Their Emotions 

Your children need to know and let you know the emotions they are feeling. They have to relate to and manage their emotions. Help your children by naming all the emotions they feel. These will include anger, sadness, happiness, joy and many others. Talk to your kids about these emotions. Whenever they feel a strong emotion, like sadness at losing a game or angry for not getting a treat, talk to them about it. Put it in words what exactly they are feeling. Let your children put their feelings into words. It will help your kids relate to emotions, both good and bad ones. It is a part of building emotional awareness.

  1. Teach Your Children Empathy 

Teach your children empathy by showing them empathy. Show empathy when they are upset. Don’t belittle or scold them. Validate their feelings and try to understand and explain the reason behind their emotions. When your kids learn that you understand what they are feeling, they will feel better.

  1. Be a Model Parent

Keep in mind, your children learn from you. So, if you want to teach your children how to be emotionally strong? You have to become the same then. Studies prove that high EI parents are most likely to have high EI children. Practice managing and expressing your emotions in a positive way. Build your emotional skills so your children can follow you. Be their role model and lead your children by example. Don’t get angry and shout in front of them. Be calm in the face of minor issues. They will do the same.

  1. Teach Your Kids to See Other’s Point of View 

Children’s world is largely black and white, there are no grey shades. The one who hurts them is wrong, and they are the good party. And anger and other emotions cloud judgment, especially in children. When your kids are angry or upset ask them to take a few deep breaths. Then ask them the reason for their emotions. Help them create the answers if they have trouble forming their responses. Ask them to find the reasons why the other party hurt them or what they must have felt. It teaches your children that other people have feelings too. They will learn to feel and see things from others’ points of view. It raises their emotional awareness and is a vital life skill for success.

  1. Teach Coping Skills to Your Children

Labelling emotions is not the only thing you teach your children. Next, teach them to deal with them in a healthy manner. Teach your children to calm down, and cheer up in simple ways. Teach them specific techniques. To calm down, ask your child to take deep breaths. Ask them to inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth. Next time, they are angry, they know what to do. You can also ask them to listen to music or paint and draw. These could be any soothing actions that your kids love. Next time they are upset, ask them to do these things to calm them down and manage their emotions.

  1. Teach Your Children Problem-Solving Skills

To develop emotional intelligence, teach your children to solve problems first. Teach them to find various ways to solve the problems that are causing negative emotions. These just have to be solutions and not the next noble prize-winning idea. Ask them to find at least four or five possible solutions. Next, help them assess the pros and cons of each solution they found. Now, ask your children to pick the best one out of it. Even when your children make mistakes, instead of shouting at them ask them what they could have done differently. Also, ask them how they can solve the mistake they made. It nudges your child to do the right thing and become a problem solver instead of a problem creator.

  1. Teach Your Children Self-Esteem

High self-esteem is a cause and also a result of high EI. So, help your children develop self-esteem. By being problem-solvers, they are already on their way to building healthy self-esteem. Teach them self-reliance. Ask them to prepare their school dresses before and maybe polish their own shoes. Ask your children to help with the housework. Let them make friends on their own. Correct them when they are wrong. Give feedback and praise them too. For your children, these tasks are challenges that they successfully solved. Once your kids start doing all these things, they gain more confidence in themselves and also get high self-esteem. This in turn develops their emotional awareness.

  1. Make EI an Ongoing Goal

Teach your children to improve EI as a part of their daily life. When young, talk to them about their feelings and emotions every day. Relate to their favorite cartoon or comic characters. Talk about how they must be feeling in certain situations. Discuss how they could have solved their problems better by managing their emotions. When they are a bit grown up, ask about their real-life situations. Encourage them to share their problems or other issues they are facing. Help them find solutions to it. Make it a regular affair.

Conclusion

Use these tips to develop emotional intelligence in your children. Include these tips in your daily life. Always be there for your children. Guide them but let them solve their problems. With your help and support, they will develop high EI and become successful and mentally strong adults.

Also Read : Why Do Emotionally Strong Children Grow into Happier Adults?

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How to Strengthen Your Child’s Emotional Intelligence?

by | Jan 11, 2022 | Character Building, Social and Emotional Learning

How to develop your child’s emotional intelligence (EI)? Before we answer that, let’s check what it means. EI is how one manages and shows his or her feelings while caring for the feelings of others. EI is related to Emotional Quotient or EQ. In fact, both these terms are interchangeable. A high EI is the same as high EQ.

It is vital in today’s day and age to have high EI. A high EI helps your children connect with others, manage their emotions better and behave well. The good news is you can teach your children to build emotional awareness at any age. Let’s look more closely at various benefits of emotional intelligence below.

Benefits of Emotional Intelligence

A strong EI has several benefits for your children. A high EI helps them their entire life, from a young age to adult life.

  1. High EQ means high IQ

Children with high EI perform better on IQ tests. They also are good in school and get higher grades.

  1. Form Better Connections and Relations

If your child has high emotional awareness they will have close friendships. Adults with high EI also have a good personal life and career. This is due to the close relationships they form in both these areas. If your children have high EI, it’s a sign that they will be successful adults.

  1. Good Mental Health

People with high EI enjoy good mental health. They are less likely to have high-stress levels, anxiety and other mental issues. They know how to express their emotions and manage themselves during periods of emotional turmoil.

So, these are some of the benefits of having high EI. With the help of the tips given below, you can teach your children ways to develop emotional intelligence and manage their feelings better.

  1. Help Your Kids Label Their Emotions 

Your children need to know and let you know the emotions they are feeling. They have to relate to and manage their emotions. Help your children by naming all the emotions they feel. These will include anger, sadness, happiness, joy and many others. Talk to your kids about these emotions. Whenever they feel a strong emotion, like sadness at losing a game or angry for not getting a treat, talk to them about it. Put it in words what exactly they are feeling. Let your children put their feelings into words. It will help your kids relate to emotions, both good and bad ones. It is a part of building emotional awareness.

  1. Teach Your Children Empathy 

Teach your children empathy by showing them empathy. Show empathy when they are upset. Don’t belittle or scold them. Validate their feelings and try to understand and explain the reason behind their emotions. When your kids learn that you understand what they are feeling, they will feel better.

  1. Be a Model Parent

Keep in mind, your children learn from you. So, if you want to teach your children how to be emotionally strong? You have to become the same then. Studies prove that high EI parents are most likely to have high EI children. Practice managing and expressing your emotions in a positive way. Build your emotional skills so your children can follow you. Be their role model and lead your children by example. Don’t get angry and shout in front of them. Be calm in the face of minor issues. They will do the same.

  1. Teach Your Kids to See Other’s Point of View 

Children’s world is largely black and white, there are no grey shades. The one who hurts them is wrong, and they are the good party. And anger and other emotions cloud judgment, especially in children. When your kids are angry or upset ask them to take a few deep breaths. Then ask them the reason for their emotions. Help them create the answers if they have trouble forming their responses. Ask them to find the reasons why the other party hurt them or what they must have felt. It teaches your children that other people have feelings too. They will learn to feel and see things from others’ points of view. It raises their emotional awareness and is a vital life skill for success.

  1. Teach Coping Skills to Your Children

Labelling emotions is not the only thing you teach your children. Next, teach them to deal with them in a healthy manner. Teach your children to calm down, and cheer up in simple ways. Teach them specific techniques. To calm down, ask your child to take deep breaths. Ask them to inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth. Next time, they are angry, they know what to do. You can also ask them to listen to music or paint and draw. These could be any soothing actions that your kids love. Next time they are upset, ask them to do these things to calm them down and manage their emotions.

  1. Teach Your Children Problem-Solving Skills

To develop emotional intelligence, teach your children to solve problems first. Teach them to find various ways to solve the problems that are causing negative emotions. These just have to be solutions and not the next noble prize-winning idea. Ask them to find at least four or five possible solutions. Next, help them assess the pros and cons of each solution they found. Now, ask your children to pick the best one out of it. Even when your children make mistakes, instead of shouting at them ask them what they could have done differently. Also, ask them how they can solve the mistake they made. It nudges your child to do the right thing and become a problem solver instead of a problem creator.

  1. Teach Your Children Self-Esteem

High self-esteem is a cause and also a result of high EI. So, help your children develop self-esteem. By being problem-solvers, they are already on their way to building healthy self-esteem. Teach them self-reliance. Ask them to prepare their school dresses before and maybe polish their own shoes. Ask your children to help with the housework. Let them make friends on their own. Correct them when they are wrong. Give feedback and praise them too. For your children, these tasks are challenges that they successfully solved. Once your kids start doing all these things, they gain more confidence in themselves and also get high self-esteem. This in turn develops their emotional awareness.

  1. Make EI an Ongoing Goal

Teach your children to improve EI as a part of their daily life. When young, talk to them about their feelings and emotions every day. Relate to their favorite cartoon or comic characters. Talk about how they must be feeling in certain situations. Discuss how they could have solved their problems better by managing their emotions. When they are a bit grown up, ask about their real-life situations. Encourage them to share their problems or other issues they are facing. Help them find solutions to it. Make it a regular affair.

Conclusion

Use these tips to develop emotional intelligence in your children. Include these tips in your daily life. Always be there for your children. Guide them but let them solve their problems. With your help and support, they will develop high EI and become successful and mentally strong adults.

Also Read : Why Do Emotionally Strong Children Grow into Happier Adults?

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